Still Suffering…

This writer’s block is kicking my ass! It has officially been 2 weeks since I’ve written anything, and that’s 3 weeks too damn long! I’m not trying to say that I’m used to churning ’em out on a daily basis, but I usually write something everyday. That’s not the case right now. This is not my first bout with writer’s block nor is it the longest (yet) but that doesn’t make it any less aggravating. I guess the main reason for this increased level of aggravation is that I don’t even have the desire to write. Could this be the end of my lyrical prowess? I hope not…

President Obama’s State Of The Union Speech – 1/25/11

Tonight I want to begin by congratulating the men and women of the 112th Congress, as well as your new Speaker, John Boehner. And as we mark this occasion, we are also mindful of the empty chair in this Chamber, and pray for the health of our colleague – and our friend – Gabby Giffords.

It’s no secret that those of us here tonight have had our differences over the last two years. The debates have been contentious; we have fought fiercely for our beliefs. And that’s a good thing. That’s what a robust democracy demands. That’s what helps set us apart as a nation.

But there’s a reason the tragedy in Tucson gave us pause. Amid all the noise and passions and rancor of our public debate, Tucson reminded us that no matter who we are or where we come from, each of us is a part of something greater – something more consequential than party or political preference.

We are part of the American family. We believe that in a country where every race and faith and point of view can be found, we are still bound together as one people; that we share common hopes and a common creed; that the dreams of a little girl in Tucson are not so different than those of our own children, and that they all deserve the chance to be fulfilled.

That, too, is what sets us apart as a nation.

Now, by itself, this simple recognition won’t usher in a new era of cooperation. What comes of this moment is up to us. What comes of this moment will be determined not by whether we can sit together tonight, but whether we can work together tomorrow.

I believe we can. I believe we must. That’s what the people who sent us here expect of us. With their votes, they’ve determined that governing will now be a shared responsibility between parties. New laws will only pass with support from Democrats and Republicans. We will move forward together, or not at all – for the challenges we face are bigger than party, and bigger than politics.

At stake right now is not who wins the next election – after all, we just had an election. At stake is whether new jobs and industries take root in this country, or somewhere else. It’s whether the hard work and industry of our people is rewarded. It’s whether we sustain the leadership that has made America not just a place on a map, but a light to the world.

We are poised for progress. Two years after the worst recession most of us have ever known, the stock market has come roaring back. Corporate profits are up. The economy is growing again.

But we have never measured progress by these yardsticks alone. We measure progress by the success of our people. By the jobs they can find and the quality of life those jobs offer. By the prospects of a small business owner who dreams of turning a good idea into a thriving enterprise. By the opportunities for a better life that we pass on to our children.

That’s the project the American people want us to work on. Together.

We did that in December. Thanks to the tax cuts we passed, Americans’ paychecks are a little bigger today. Every business can write off the full cost of the new investments they make this year. These steps, taken by Democrats and Republicans, will grow the economy and add to the more than one million private sector jobs created last year.

But we have more work to do. The steps we’ve taken over the last two years may have broken the back of this recession – but to win the future, we’ll need to take on challenges that have been decades in the making.

Many people watching tonight can probably remember a time when finding a good job meant showing up at a nearby factory or a business downtown. You didn’t always need a degree, and your competition was pretty much limited to your neighbors. If you worked hard, chances are you’d have a job for life, with a decent paycheck, good benefits, and the occasional promotion. Maybe you’d even have the pride of seeing your kids work at the same company.

That world has changed. And for many, the change has been painful. I’ve seen it in the shuttered windows of once booming factories, and the vacant storefronts of once busy Main Streets. I’ve heard it in the frustrations of Americans who’ve seen their paychecks dwindle or their jobs disappear – proud men and women who feel like the rules have been changed in the middle of the game.

They’re right. The rules have changed. In a single generation, revolutions in technology have transformed the way we live, work and do business. Steel mills that once needed 1,000 workers can now do the same work with 100. Today, just about any company can set up shop, hire workers, and sell their products wherever there’s an internet connection.

Meanwhile, nations like China and India realized that with some changes of their own, they could compete in this new world. And so they started educating their children earlier and longer, with greater emphasis on math and science. They’re investing in research and new technologies. Just recently, China became home to the world’s largest private solar research facility, and the world’s fastest computer.

So yes, the world has changed. The competition for jobs is real. But this shouldn’t discourage us. It should challenge us. Remember – for all the hits we’ve taken these last few years, for all the naysayers predicting our decline, America still has the largest, most prosperous economy in the world. No workers are more productive than ours. No country has more successful companies, or grants more patents to inventors and entrepreneurs. We are home to the world’s best colleges and universities, where more students come to study than any other place on Earth.

What’s more, we are the first nation to be founded for the sake of an idea – the idea that each of us deserves the chance to shape our own destiny. That is why centuries of pioneers and immigrants have risked everything to come here. It’s why our students don’t just memorize equations, but answer questions like “What do you think of that idea? What would you change about the world? What do you want to be when you grow up?”

The future is ours to win. But to get there, we can’t just stand still. As Robert Kennedy told us, “The future is not a gift. It is an achievement.” Sustaining the American Dream has never been about standing pat. It has required each generation to sacrifice, and struggle, and meet the demands of a new age.

Now it’s our turn. We know what it takes to compete for the jobs and industries of our time. We need to out-innovate, out-educate, and out-build the rest of the world. We have to make America the best place on Earth to do business. We need to take responsibility for our deficit, and reform our government. That’s how our people will prosper. That’s how we’ll win the future. And tonight, I’d like to talk about how we get there.

The first step in winning the future is encouraging American innovation.

None of us can predict with certainty what the next big industry will be, or where the new jobs will come from. Thirty years ago, we couldn’t know that something called the Internet would lead to an economic revolution. What we can do – what America does better than anyone – is spark the creativity and imagination of our people. We are the nation that put cars in driveways and computers in offices; the nation of Edison and the Wright brothers; of Google and Facebook. In America, innovation doesn’t just change our lives. It’s how we make a living.

Our free enterprise system is what drives innovation. But because it’s not always profitable for companies to invest in basic research, throughout history our government has provided cutting-edge scientists and inventors with the support that they need. That’s what planted the seeds for the Internet. That’s what helped make possible things like computer chips and GPS.

Just think of all the good jobs – from manufacturing to retail – that have come from those breakthroughs.

Half a century ago, when the Soviets beat us into space with the launch of a satellite called Sputnik¸ we had no idea how we’d beat them to the moon. The science wasn’t there yet. NASA didn’t even exist. But after investing in better research and education, we didn’t just surpass the Soviets; we unleashed a wave of innovation that created new industries and millions of new jobs.

This is our generation’s Sputnik moment. Two years ago, I said that we needed to reach a level of research and development we haven’t seen since the height of the Space Race. In a few weeks, I will be sending a budget to Congress that helps us meet that goal. We’ll invest in biomedical research, information technology, and especially clean energy technology – an investment that will strengthen our security, protect our planet, and create countless new jobs for our people.

Already, we are seeing the promise of renewable energy. Robert and Gary Allen are brothers who run a small Michigan roofing company. After September 11th, they volunteered their best roofers to help repair the Pentagon. But half of their factory went unused, and the recession hit them hard.
Today, with the help of a government loan, that empty space is being used to manufacture solar shingles that are being sold all across the country. In Robert’s words, “We reinvented ourselves.”

That’s what Americans have done for over two hundred years: reinvented ourselves. And to spur on more success stories like the Allen Brothers, we’ve begun to reinvent our energy policy. We’re not just handing out money. We’re issuing a challenge. We’re telling America’s scientists and engineers that if they assemble teams of the best minds in their fields, and focus on the hardest problems in clean energy, we’ll fund the Apollo Projects of our time.

At the California Institute of Technology, they’re developing a way to turn sunlight and water into fuel for our cars. At Oak Ridge National Laboratory, they’re using supercomputers to get a lot more power out of our nuclear facilities. With more research and incentives, we can break our dependence on oil with biofuels, and become the first country to have 1 million electric vehicles on the road by 2015.

We need to get behind this innovation. And to help pay for it, I’m asking Congress to eliminate the billions in taxpayer dollars we currently give to oil companies. I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but they’re doing just fine on their own. So instead of subsidizing yesterday’s energy, let’s invest in tomorrow’s.

Now, clean energy breakthroughs will only translate into clean energy jobs if businesses know there will be a market for what they’re selling. So tonight, I challenge you to join me in setting a new goal: by 2035, 80% of America’s electricity will come from clean energy sources. Some folks want wind and solar. Others want nuclear, clean coal, and natural gas. To meet this goal, we will need them all – and I urge Democrats and Republicans to work together to make it happen.

Maintaining our leadership in research and technology is crucial to America’s success. But if we want to win the future – if we want innovation to produce jobs in America and not overseas – then we also have to win the race to educate our kids.

Think about it. Over the next ten years, nearly half of all new jobs will require education that goes beyond a high school degree. And yet, as many as a quarter of our students aren’t even finishing high school. The quality of our math and science education lags behind many other nations. America has fallen to 9th in the proportion of young people with a college degree. And so the question is whether all of us – as citizens, and as parents – are willing to do what’s necessary to give every child a chance to succeed.

That responsibility begins not in our classrooms, but in our homes and communities. It’s family that first instills the love of learning in a child. Only parents can make sure the TV is turned off and homework gets done. We need to teach our kids that it’s not just the winner of the Super Bowl who deserves to be celebrated, but the winner of the science fair; that success is not a function of fame or PR, but of hard work and discipline.

Our schools share this responsibility. When a child walks into a classroom, it should be a place of high expectations and high performance. But too many schools don’t meet this test. That’s why instead of just pouring money into a system that’s not working, we launched a competition called Race to the Top. To all fifty states, we said, “If you show us the most innovative plans to improve teacher quality and student achievement, we’ll show you the money.”

Race to the Top is the most meaningful reform of our public schools in a generation. For less than one percent of what we spend on education each year, it has led over 40 states to raise their standards for teaching and learning. These standards were developed, not by Washington, but by Republican and Democratic governors throughout the country. And Race to the Top should be the approach we follow this year as we replace No Child Left Behind with a law that is more flexible and focused on what’s best for our kids.

You see, we know what’s possible for our children when reform isn’t just a top-down mandate, but the work of local teachers and principals; school boards and communities.

Take a school like Bruce Randolph in Denver. Three years ago, it was rated one of the worst schools in Colorado; located on turf between two rival gangs. But last May, 97% of the seniors received their diploma. Most will be the first in their family to go to college. And after the first year of the school’s transformation, the principal who made it possible wiped away tears when a student said “Thank you, Mrs. Waters, for showing… that we are smart and we can make it.”

Let’s also remember that after parents, the biggest impact on a child’s success comes from the man or woman at the front of the classroom. In South Korea, teachers are known as “nation builders.” Here in America, it’s time we treated the people who educate our children with the same level of respect. We want to reward good teachers and stop making excuses for bad ones. And over the next ten years, with so many Baby Boomers retiring from our classrooms, we want to prepare 100,000 new teachers in the fields of science, technology, engineering, and math.

In fact, to every young person listening tonight who’s contemplating their career choice: If you want to make a difference in the life of our nation; if you want to make a difference in the life of a child – become a teacher. Your country needs you.

Of course, the education race doesn’t end with a high school diploma. To compete, higher education must be within reach of every American. That’s why we’ve ended the unwarranted taxpayer subsidies that went to banks, and used the savings to make college affordable for millions of students. And this year, I ask Congress to go further, and make permanent our tuition tax credit – worth $10,000 for four years of college.

Because people need to be able to train for new jobs and careers in today’s fast-changing economy, we are also revitalizing America’s community colleges. Last month, I saw the promise of these schools at Forsyth Tech in North Carolina. Many of the students there used to work in the surrounding factories that have since left town. One mother of two, a woman named Kathy Proctor, had worked in the furniture industry since she was 18 years old. And she told me she’s earning her degree in biotechnology now, at 55 years old, not just because the furniture jobs are gone, but because she wants to inspire her children to pursue their dreams too. As Kathy said, “I hope it tells them to never give up.”
If we take these steps – if we raise expectations for every child, and give them the best possible chance at an education, from the day they’re born until the last job they take – we will reach the goal I set two years ago: by the end of the decade, America will once again have the highest proportion of college graduates in the world.

One last point about education. Today, there are hundreds of thousands of students excelling in our schools who are not American citizens. Some are the children of undocumented workers, who had nothing to do with the actions of their parents. They grew up as Americans and pledge allegiance to our flag, and yet live every day with the threat of deportation. Others come here from abroad to study in our colleges and universities. But as soon as they obtain advanced degrees, we send them back home to compete against us. It makes no sense.

Now, I strongly believe that we should take on, once and for all, the issue of illegal immigration. I am prepared to work with Republicans and Democrats to protect our borders, enforce our laws and address the millions of undocumented workers who are now living in the shadows. I know that debate will be difficult and take time. But tonight, let’s agree to make that effort. And let’s stop expelling talented, responsible young people who can staff our research labs, start new businesses, and further enrich this nation.

The third step in winning the future is rebuilding America. To attract new businesses to our shores, we need the fastest, most reliable ways to move people, goods, and information – from high-speed rail to high-speed internet.

Our infrastructure used to be the best – but our lead has slipped. South Korean homes now have greater internet access than we do. Countries in Europe and Russia invest more in their roads and railways than we do. China is building faster trains and newer airports. Meanwhile, when our own engineers graded our nation’s infrastructure, they gave us a “D.”

We have to do better. America is the nation that built the transcontinental railroad, brought electricity to rural communities, and constructed the interstate highway system. The jobs created by these projects didn’t just come from laying down tracks or pavement. They came from businesses that opened near a town’s new train station or the new off-ramp.

Over the last two years, we have begun rebuilding for the 21st century, a project that has meant thousands of good jobs for the hard-hit construction industry. Tonight, I’m proposing that we redouble these efforts.

We will put more Americans to work repairing crumbling roads and bridges. We will make sure this is fully paid for, attract private investment, and pick projects based on what’s best for the economy, not politicians.

Within 25 years, our goal is to give 80% of Americans access to high-speed rail, which could allow you go places in half the time it takes to travel by car. For some trips, it will be faster than flying – without the pat-down. As we speak, routes in California and the Midwest are already underway.

Within the next five years, we will make it possible for business to deploy the next generation of high-speed wireless coverage to 98% of all Americans. This isn’t just about a faster internet and fewer dropped calls. It’s about connecting every part of America to the digital age. It’s about a rural community in Iowa or Alabama where farmers and small business owners will be able to sell their products all over the world. It’s about a firefighter who can download the design of a burning building onto a handheld device; a student who can take classes with a digital textbook; or a patient who can have face-to-face video chats with her doctor.

All these investments – in innovation, education, and infrastructure – will make America a better place to do business and create jobs. But to help our companies compete, we also have to knock down barriers that stand in the way of their success.

Over the years, a parade of lobbyists has rigged the tax code to benefit particular companies and industries. Those with accountants or lawyers to work the system can end up paying no taxes at all. But all the rest are hit with one of the highest corporate tax rates in the world. It makes no sense, and it has to change.

So tonight, I’m asking Democrats and Republicans to simplify the system. Get rid of the loopholes. Level the playing field. And use the savings to lower the corporate tax rate for the first time in 25 years – without adding to our deficit.

To help businesses sell more products abroad, we set a goal of doubling our exports by 2014 – because the more we export, the more jobs we create at home. Already, our exports are up. Recently, we signed agreements with India and China that will support more than 250,000 jobs in the United States. And last month, we finalized a trade agreement with South Korea that will support at least 70,000 American jobs. This agreement has unprecedented support from business and labor; Democrats and Republicans, and I ask this Congress to pass it as soon as possible.

Before I took office, I made it clear that we would enforce our trade agreements, and that I would only sign deals that keep faith with American workers, and promote American jobs. That’s what we did with Korea, and that’s what I intend to do as we pursue agreements with Panama and Colombia, and continue our Asia Pacific and global trade talks.

To reduce barriers to growth and investment, I’ve ordered a review of government regulations. When we find rules that put an unnecessary burden on businesses, we will fix them. But I will not hesitate to create or enforce commonsense safeguards to protect the American people. That’s what we’ve done in this country for more than a century. It’s why our food is safe to eat, our water is safe to drink, and our air is safe to breathe. It’s why we have speed limits and child labor laws. It’s why last year, we put in place consumer protections against hidden fees and penalties by credit card companies, and new rules to prevent another financial crisis. And it’s why we passed reform that finally prevents the health insurance industry from exploiting patients.

Now, I’ve heard rumors that a few of you have some concerns about the new health care law. So let me be the first to say that anything can be improved. If you have ideas about how to improve this law by making care better or more affordable, I am eager to work with you. We can start right now by correcting a flaw in the legislation that has placed an unnecessary bookkeeping burden on small businesses.

What I’m not willing to do is go back to the days when insurance companies could deny someone coverage because of a pre-existing condition. I’m not willing to tell James Howard, a brain cancer patient from Texas, that his treatment might not be covered. I’m not willing to tell Jim Houser, a small business owner from Oregon, that he has to go back to paying $5,000 more to cover his employees. As we speak, this law is making prescription drugs cheaper for seniors and giving uninsured students a chance to stay on their parents’ coverage. So instead of re-fighting the battles of the last two years, let’s fix what needs fixing and move forward.

Now, the final step – a critical step – in winning the future is to make sure we aren’t buried under a mountain of debt.

We are living with a legacy of deficit-spending that began almost a decade ago. And in the wake of the financial crisis, some of that was necessary to keep credit flowing, save jobs, and put money in people’s pockets.

But now that the worst of the recession is over, we have to confront the fact that our government spends more than it takes in. That is not sustainable. Every day, families sacrifice to live within their means. They deserve a government that does the same.

So tonight, I am proposing that starting this year, we freeze annual domestic spending for the next five years. This would reduce the deficit by more than $400 billion over the next decade, and will bring discretionary spending to the lowest share of our economy since Dwight Eisenhower was president.

This freeze will require painful cuts. Already, we have frozen the salaries of hardworking federal employees for the next two years. I’ve proposed cuts to things I care deeply about, like community action programs. The Secretary of Defense has also agreed to cut tens of billions of dollars in spending that he and his generals believe our military can do without.

I recognize that some in this Chamber have already proposed deeper cuts, and I’m willing to eliminate whatever we can honestly afford to do without. But let’s make sure that we’re not doing it on the backs of our most vulnerable citizens. And let’s make sure what we’re cutting is really excess weight. Cutting the deficit by gutting our investments in innovation and education is like lightening an overloaded airplane by removing its engine. It may feel like you’re flying high at first, but it won’t take long before you’ll feel the impact.

Now, most of the cuts and savings I’ve proposed only address annual domestic spending, which represents a little more than 12% of our budget. To make further progress, we have to stop pretending that cutting this kind of spending alone will be enough. It won’t.

The bipartisan Fiscal Commission I created last year made this crystal clear. I don’t agree with all their proposals, but they made important progress. And their conclusion is that the only way to tackle our deficit is to cut excessive spending wherever we find it – in domestic spending, defense spending, health care spending, and spending through tax breaks and loopholes.

This means further reducing health care costs, including programs like Medicare and Medicaid, which are the single biggest contributor to our long-term deficit. Health insurance reform will slow these rising costs, which is part of why nonpartisan economists have said that repealing the health care law would add a quarter of a trillion dollars to our deficit. Still, I’m willing to look at other ideas to bring down costs, including one that Republicans suggested last year: medical malpractice reform to rein in frivolous lawsuits.

To put us on solid ground, we should also find a bipartisan solution to strengthen Social Security for future generations. And we must do it without putting at risk current retirees, the most vulnerable, or people with disabilities; without slashing benefits for future generations; and without subjecting Americans’ guaranteed retirement income to the whims of the stock market.

And if we truly care about our deficit, we simply cannot afford a permanent extension of the tax cuts for the wealthiest 2% of Americans. Before we take money away from our schools, or scholarships away from our students, we should ask millionaires to give up their tax break.

It’s not a matter of punishing their success. It’s about promoting America’s success.

In fact, the best thing we could do on taxes for all Americans is to simplify the individual tax code. This will be a tough job, but members of both parties have expressed interest in doing this, and I am prepared to join them.

So now is the time to act. Now is the time for both sides and both houses of Congress – Democrats and Republicans – to forge a principled compromise that gets the job done. If we make the hard choices now to rein in our deficits, we can make the investments we need to win the future.

Let me take this one step further. We shouldn’t just give our people a government that’s more affordable. We should give them a government that’s more competent and efficient. We cannot win the future with a government of the past.

We live and do business in the information age, but the last major reorganization of the government happened in the age of black and white TV. There are twelve different agencies that deal with exports. There are at least five different entities that deal with housing policy. Then there’s my favorite example: the Interior Department is in charge of salmon while they’re in fresh water, but the Commerce Department handles them in when they’re in saltwater. And I hear it gets even more complicated once they’re smoked.

Now, we have made great strides over the last two years in using technology and getting rid of waste. Veterans can now download their electronic medical records with a click of the mouse. We’re selling acres of federal office space that hasn’t been used in years, and we will cut through red tape to get rid of more. But we need to think bigger. In the coming months, my administration will develop a proposal to merge, consolidate, and reorganize the federal government in a way that best serves the goal of a more competitive America. I will submit that proposal to Congress for a vote – and we will push to get it passed.

In the coming year, we will also work to rebuild people’s faith in the institution of government. Because you deserve to know exactly how and where your tax dollars are being spent, you will be able to go to a website and get that information for the very first time in history. Because you deserve to know when your elected officials are meeting with lobbyists, I ask Congress to do what the White House has already done: put that information online. And because the American people deserve to know that special interests aren’t larding up legislation with pet projects, both parties in Congress should know this: if a bill comes to my desk with earmarks inside, I will veto it.

A 21st century government that’s open and competent. A government that lives within its means. An economy that’s driven by new skills and ideas. Our success in this new and changing world will require reform, responsibility, and innovation. It will also require us to approach that world with a new level of engagement in our foreign affairs.

Just as jobs and businesses can now race across borders, so can new threats and new challenges. No single wall separates East and West; no one rival superpower is aligned against us.

And so we must defeat determined enemies wherever they are, and build coalitions that cut across lines of region and race and religion. America’s moral example must always shine for all who yearn for freedom, justice, and dignity. And because we have begun this work, tonight we can say that American leadership has been renewed and America’s standing has been restored.

Look to Iraq, where nearly 100,000 of our brave men and women have left with their heads held high; where American combat patrols have ended; violence has come down; and a new government has been formed. This year, our civilians will forge a lasting partnership with the Iraqi people, while we finish the job of bringing our troops out of Iraq. America’s commitment has been kept; the Iraq War is coming to an end.

Of course, as we speak, al Qaeda and their affiliates continue to plan attacks against us. Thanks to our intelligence and law enforcement professionals, we are disrupting plots and securing our cities and skies. And as extremists try to inspire acts of violence within our borders, we are responding with the strength of our communities, with respect for the rule of law, and with the conviction that American Muslims are a part of our American family.

We have also taken the fight to al Qaeda and their allies abroad. In Afghanistan, our troops have taken Taliban strongholds and trained Afghan Security Forces. Our purpose is clear – by preventing the Taliban from reestablishing a stranglehold over the Afghan people, we will deny al Qaeda the safe-haven that served as a launching pad for 9/11.

Thanks to our heroic troops and civilians, fewer Afghans are under the control of the insurgency. There will be tough fighting ahead, and the Afghan government will need to deliver better governance. But we are strengthening the capacity of the Afghan people and building an enduring partnership with them. This year, we will work with nearly 50 countries to begin a transition to an Afghan lead. And this July, we will begin to bring our troops home.

In Pakistan, al Qaeda’s leadership is under more pressure than at any point since 2001. Their leaders and operatives are being removed from the battlefield. Their safe-havens are shrinking. And we have sent a message from the Afghan border to the Arabian Peninsula to all parts of the globe: we will not relent, we will not waver, and we will defeat you.

American leadership can also be seen in the effort to secure the worst weapons of war. Because Republicans and Democrats approved the New START Treaty, far fewer nuclear weapons and launchers will be deployed. Because we rallied the world, nuclear materials are being locked down on every continent so they never fall into the hands of terrorists.

Because of a diplomatic effort to insist that Iran meet its obligations, the Iranian government now faces tougher and tighter sanctions than ever before. And on the Korean peninsula, we stand with our ally South Korea, and insist that North Korea keeps its commitment to abandon nuclear weapons.

This is just a part of how we are shaping a world that favors peace and prosperity. With our European allies, we revitalized NATO, and increased our cooperation on everything from counter-terrorism to missile defense. We have reset our relationship with Russia, strengthened Asian alliances, and built new partnerships with nations like India. This March, I will travel to Brazil, Chile, and El Salvador to forge new alliances for progress in the Americas. Around the globe, we are standing with those who take responsibility – helping farmers grow more food; supporting doctors who care for the sick; and combating the corruption that can rot a society and rob people of opportunity.

Recent events have shown us that what sets us apart must not just be our power – it must be the purpose behind it. In South Sudan – with our assistance – the people were finally able to vote for independence after years of war. Thousands lined up before dawn. People danced in the streets. One man who lost four of his brothers at war summed up the scene around him: “This was a battlefield for most of my life. Now we want to be free.”

We saw that same desire to be free in Tunisia, where the will of the people proved more powerful than the writ of a dictator. And tonight, let us be clear: the United States of America stands with the people of Tunisia, and supports the democratic aspirations of all people.

We must never forget that the things we’ve struggled for, and fought for, live in the hearts of people everywhere. And we must always remember that the Americans who have borne the greatest burden in this struggle are the men and women who serve our country.

Tonight, let us speak with one voice in reaffirming that our nation is united in support of our troops and their families. Let us serve them as well as they have served us – by giving them the equipment they need; by providing them with the care and benefits they have earned; and by enlisting our veterans in the great task of building our own nation.

Our troops come from every corner of this country – they are black, white, Latino, Asian and Native American. They are Christian and Hindu, Jewish and Muslim. And, yes, we know that some of them are gay. Starting this year, no American will be forbidden from serving the country they love because of who they love. And with that change, I call on all of our college campuses to open their doors to our military recruiters and the ROTC. It is time to leave behind the divisive battles of the past. It is time to move forward as one nation.

We should have no illusions about the work ahead of us. Reforming our schools; changing the way we use energy; reducing our deficit – none of this is easy. All of it will take time. And it will be harder because we will argue about everything. The cost. The details. The letter of every law.

Of course, some countries don’t have this problem. If the central government wants a railroad, they get a railroad – no matter how many homes are bulldozed. If they don’t want a bad story in the newspaper, it doesn’t get written.

And yet, as contentious and frustrating and messy as our democracy can sometimes be, I know there isn’t a person here who would trade places with any other nation on Earth.

We may have differences in policy, but we all believe in the rights enshrined in our Constitution. We may have different opinions, but we believe in the same promise that says this is a place where you can make it if you try. We may have different backgrounds, but we believe in the same dream that says this is a country where anything’s possible. No matter who you are. No matter where you come from.

That dream is why I can stand here before you tonight. That dream is why a working class kid from Scranton can stand behind me. That dream is why someone who began by sweeping the floors of his father’s Cincinnati bar can preside as Speaker of the House in the greatest nation on Earth.

That dream – that American Dream – is what drove the Allen Brothers to reinvent their roofing company for a new era. It’s what drove those students at Forsyth Tech to learn a new skill and work towards the future. And that dream is the story of a small business owner named Brandon Fisher.

Brandon started a company in Berlin, Pennsylvania that specializes in a new kind of drilling technology. One day last summer, he saw the news that halfway across the world, 33 men were trapped in a Chilean mine, and no one knew how to save them.

But Brandon thought his company could help. And so he designed a rescue that would come to be known as Plan B. His employees worked around the clock to manufacture the necessary drilling equipment. And Brandon left for Chile.

Along with others, he began drilling a 2,000 foot hole into the ground, working three or four days at a time with no sleep. Thirty-seven days later, Plan B succeeded, and the miners were rescued. But because he didn’t want all of the attention, Brandon wasn’t there when the miners emerged. He had already gone home, back to work on his next project.

Later, one of his employees said of the rescue, “We proved that Center Rock is a little company, but we do big things.”

We do big things.

From the earliest days of our founding, America has been the story of ordinary people who dare to dream. That’s how we win the future.

We are a nation that says, “I might not have a lot of money, but I have this great idea for a new company. I might not come from a family of college graduates, but I will be the first to get my degree. I might not know those people in trouble, but I think I can help them, and I need to try.

I’m not sure how we’ll reach that better place beyond the horizon, but I know we’ll get there. I know we will.”

We do big things.

The idea of America endures. Our destiny remains our choice. And tonight, more than two centuries later, it is because of our people that our future is hopeful, our journey goes forward, and the state of our union is strong.

Thank you, God Bless You, and may God Bless the United States of America.

You Think You Know, But You Have No Idea… (Revisited)

I originally wrote this almost 2 years ago to the day and always said I would do it again and add to it. So, since we just celebrated the coming of another New Year, here’s goes my second turn at full disclosure…

1. I grew up as an only child and am JEALOUS of people who have siblings. I always have been and probably always will be. But if I had the choice to have siblings when I was a child, I don’t think I would really want them. I loved my childhood (for the most part).

2. I’m probably the shyest person you know. I’ve been like that for years, but I’m better about approaching women now than I used to be. I still have my moments when I find it hard to speak, though.

3. I’m originally from Kansas City, MO but consider Atlanta, GA my hometown. It’s a long story as to why. Out of all the places I’ve lived, and the list is pretty long, Atlanta is the first place I felt like I fit in. I feel awkward when I go back to MO to visit.

4. I’m still secretly insecure about my looks, which is why I love to go shopping. I always figured I could make up for not being the most attractive man if I was the best dressed.

5. I’m smarter than most people think I am. I have an IQ of 163 but got bad grades in high school because I was bored to death. I even taught one of my classes for a month. And that experience made me want to be a teacher. That’s until I saw how much they get paid…

6. After careful review, I realized I’ve only been in love once, and have only had 4 serious romantic relationships in 30 years of living.

7. I believe nothing is more important than family, but I avoid the vast majority of the members of my family like they have the plague. Its because I really am a creature of habits, and I spent a large portion of my life without them. So, I’ve got used to being without my family. I am trying to change that, especially since I’m approaching the point in my life when I want to start a family.

8. I don’t have a lot of friends. And the friends I do have, I consider to be family. In all honesty, I might love them more than I love my real family.

9. Speaking of friends, most of my firends are female. I’m not too sure why, though. But it has led to my sexuality being questioned on numerous occasions.

10. I lost my father to cancer on September 7, 2007. If you knew me prior to his death, you know the kind of relationship we had. I took his death a lot harder than even I had initially realized. Since he passed, my life (my approach to life in particular) hasn’t really been the same. But, as of my 30th birthday, I’m starting to feel like the “old” me again. I’m not sure if that’s a good thing or a bad thing though.

11. I love to write and have been writing since 1995! I actually have cried because I had writer’s block. I can honestly count on my hand the number of people that knew that!

12. I was originally left-handed, but my mother made me learn how to write with my right hand. I never asked why, but I think that is by far the dumbest thing I have ever heard of. But because of that, I’m partially ambidextrous. It’s wierd.

13. I’m an alcoholic. I’m not a full-out, fall down drunk or anything like that, but I’ve struggled with alcoholism since I was 13. That’s why you’ll never see me have more than 3 drinks if I’m out somewhere, unless something is seriously bothering me. In that case, you might wanna drag me away from the bar.

14. I’m afraid of growing up, which keeps me from being able to commit to anything serious. But at the same time, I’m afraid of not progressing in my life. Which is why I’m prone to become frustrated by being single. I think single life is for people under the age of 25 and sociopaths. I’m neither.

15. I love hard and fast. I can tell within a few social encounters what kind of feelings I’ll have for a woman. And once I fall for her, my feelings don’t go away easily. If she doesn’t feel the same way, I usually cut off all communications just to spare my feelings.

16. My nickname is Moses, but you would be surprised by who started calling me that. It came from the pastor of a church that I attended when I lived in Denver, CO. He said he could sense that I had the spirit of a great leader. That was almost 15 years ago and while other people easily recognize that attribute of my personality, I’m still waiting to see it.

17. I’m seriously claustrophobic! I can’t even ride in small cars without getting really nervous. So if you ever are on an elevator with me and I get quiet and grab the rail, that’s why.

18. I really want kids and have felt that way for about 8 or 9 years, but I’m scared to death at the same time that I won’t be a good father. That fear has kept me from fully committing myself to a relationship so far.

19. I’m really lazy, unless I’m working towards something that directly benefits me. That’s the main reason why I want to open my own business. I don’t want to work for anybody else, I’d rather be my own asshole of a boss. There are other reasons, too. Ask and I might tell.

20. I originally got tattoos as a conversation starter. But now, my tattoos have taken on their own significant meanings, especially the one on the lower part of my upper right arm. Its my father’s nickname (Chief) in Arabic. I plan on getting more in the very near future. I’m thinking about getting one covered up, though.

21. I’m really old fashioned, to an extent. I don’t believe in having kids out of wedlock, and I only want to get married once. I think that (along with some other factors that are mentioned above) has kept me from settling down or just running out and having a baby.

22. I don’t really like to talk about the things that are bothering me, but I try to give clues as to what is wrong. Only the people that really know me are able to pick up on them, though.

23. I really am a nice guy! I adopted my “asshole” persona in high school. It was my way of dealing with being rejected by a girl that I was head over heels for. Over the years, I’ve mellowed out but I still have my moments when I can be a real jerk. I’ve always said that one day I would drop the facade altogether, and I think that time has finally arrived.

24. I’m deathly afraid of hospitals. It all stems from my father’s death. I recently had to go to the hospital to have surgery and I cried like a baby. They had to medicate me just to get me to calm down.

25. I’ve decided to go back to school, not only so that I can get my degree but I also want to join a fraternity. I’m really self-conscious about that decision, though. I’ll be 30 (going on 31) when I start taking classes and I haven’t been in a classroom in over 10 years.

That’s all I want to share for now. I might make this an annual thing, who knows. But in the meantime, if you have any questions, just ask. I don’t bite.

Writer’s Block Is A Stone Cold B***h!!!!

Okay… Every now and then, life tends to throw even the best of us a killer curveball that we just can’t handle. And I have definitely had my fair share over the past few months. But the worst thing that has happened to me in the history of horrible shit happening to me is the fact that I have WRITER’S BLOCK!!! AAAAAAAAARRGGHH!!!!! I’m a lot of things (I’m an athlete, I’m a man, I’ve been accused of being a womanizer, at times I’m a lier, I’ve been known to be a bit of a whore on occassions, I’m a metrosexual (if you don’t know what that is, just ask), I’m an asshole and the list goes on and on and on and on…) but the one thing that I am that I am most proud of is being a poet. Poetry is the one thing in my life that I just knew could never be taken away from me. I felt that everything else was kinda like a fad ya know, something I was just doing because it suited me at the time. But poetry, was gonna always be me. I had dreams of being a 75 year old man, sitting in a rocking chair, dropping sick verses on my grandkids in between catnaps. But now, I’m halfway scared that I lost my “voice.” Maybe I said that wrong. I still know that I can sit down and set a piece a paper on fire if I get it flowing, but the problem is getting started. I kinda feel like a kid who fell off his bike a few too many times and decided not ride it for a while. I know I can still do it, but I’m not sure how to go about getting started.

Now… here I am, sitting at a table, staring at a blank notepad. And I’m pretty much hating it! So, I’m here to lay myself upon the mercy of anybody who takes the time to read this drawn out rant. Throw me some topics! And anything I write will get posted with a special shoutout to whomever suggested what I wrote about. Let’s try to stay away from the obvious ones (love, religion, and politics). I appreciate it greatly. One love

Birthday Revelations (Waking Up 30)

Another year older and what did I get? Not much of anything, except a new batch of regrets.

Every year, I seem to learn something new. But for some reason, this year was a little different than the past few. This year, I woke up and felt like I was 30. That’s not to say I felt like all of life’s lessons had been learned or some great mystery had finally been solved. Basically, I woke up and felt like all the childish things that had defined the last decade of my life were no longer acceptable. As I got dressed, I reflected on some of the shit, for lack of a better word, that has been going on in my life recently. And, despite my recent dreary disposition towards life, I felt pretty good. I wonder why that is…

I’ve seen a lot of people come and go in my life over the past few years. Most of them, were meaningless. Well, not meaningless, everybody has a purpose and a meaning in your life. Maybe what I’m trying to say is that most of them didn’t come across as individuals with a great deal of staying power. But there are a few, a precious few, who came along and had a profound effect on my little corner of the world in some very unique ways. And I thought, hoped and prayed that they would be around forever because I had really found myself depending on them for different things. But now, they’re gone and it feels a little lonely. And that loneliness is magnified by the fact that my world feels like a bit of a fish bowl nowadays.

But, I gotta move on. Hopefully, some of the people that have departed my world will find their way back in it. Not because I want them back, well partially because I want them back. But, there are a couple that I really need. I’m not too sure how I’ll carry on without them. Hell, I’m not too sure how I’ve managed to keep my shit together this long without them. It’s hard to lose your source of happiness and then try to be happy. Nothing seems right right now. Even the sunniest day feels cloudy. But, I guess that’s just life though.

The Top Ten Greatest Hip-Hop Groups of All Time

Last time, I posed the question “Who’s the best rapper to ever bless a mic?” I didn’t really get a whole lot of answers, but I feel like I sparked some interesting conversations. But now, I want to know who’s in your top ten when it comes to rap/hip-hop groups. Once again, MTV gave me a base to jump off. And it goes a little something like this:

10. UGK

9. The Fugees

8. Salt ‘N Pepa

7. EPMD

6. A Tribe Called Quest

5. Wu-Tang Clan

4. OutKast

3. Public Enemy

2. N.W.A.

1. Run-DMC

http://www.mtv.com/bands/h/hip_hop_week/2007/groups/

Just like MTV’s list of Greatest Rappers of All Time, I was feeling this one a bunch! And once again, I feel like they fucked up when it came to the Top 5. But, for the most part, they got the list right this time! I still got some honorable mentions, but not as many this time. So here we go:

Bone Thugs-N-Harmony, Dead Prez, UGK, EPMD, St. Lunatics, Goodie Mob, De La Soul, Three 6 Mafia, The Roots, The Sugarhill Gang, The Geto Boys and 2 Live Crew

I told you my list of honorable mentions was shorter this time! These groups get an honorable mention for pretty much the same reasons as on my list of greatest rappers. So let’s get to my top ten:

10. The Beastie Boys – These cats was wild as hell! They made great party music. But they kinda lost that fun spirit as they got older.

9. The Fugees – It was kinda hard for me to see this group near the bottom of MTV’s list and it was even harder for to place them this low on my own. But I have a reason. They broke extremely too fast! They dropped one mainstream album (there is another Fugees album that predates The Score, just don’t ask what the name of it is). But I’m a huge fan of their music and I love the way they blended different styles to make their own music. And this group also produced 2 huge stars in the music industry: Lauryn Hill (who also flamed out after one amazing album) and Wyclef Jean.

8. A Tribe Called Quest – Not too big of a fan of this group, but I respect the fact that definitely made good music. They also helped introduce the world to one of my favorite rappers, Busta Rhymes.

7. The Roots – The Roots make my list for the same reasons as The Fugees.

6. Salt ‘N Pepa – These ladies held it down! They were sexy as hell and knew how to handle themselves on the mic as well.

5. Wu Tang-Clan – How in the hell can 9 people be in one group, make sure everybody is featured and still make hot music? Ask the boys from Shaolin how they pulled it off. And just like The Fugees and The Roots, they introduced us to some major stars. (R.I.P. Ol’ Dirty Bastard)

4. Public Enemy – I’m not a really into political music, but Chuck D and the crew really held it down. They brought pressing issues to light in a way that was entertaining as well as informative. They would’ve been higher, but I had to punish them for unleashing Flavor Flav on the world.

3. N.W.A. – There are no words that can really describe the impact N.W.A. had on music. They came out at a time when the world needed to hear what they had to say. (R.I.P. Eazy E)

2. OutKast – I removed UGK & EPMD from my list for not being actual groups, just duos. That’s also the reason why another one of my favorites, 8Ball & MJG, didn’t make the cut. And the same fate almost befell Big Boi & Andre 3000. But I thought about the fact that they came out and really helped put not only Atlanta, but Southern rap music on the map. Big ups to them boys. I hope they drop another album soon.

1. Run-DMC – “I’m the King of Rock, there is none higher. Sucker MC’s should call me sire!” That line pretty much says it all. I own a leather blazer still because of them. You can even catch me rockin’ my Adidas with no shoe strings.

Hopefully, while you been reading this, you came up with your own list. Share it! I’d loved to know what you think. Tell me where you disagree with me and why. Peace and love.

The New American Pandemic

I actually wrote this about 2 years ago and, upon reading it this morning, realized that we’re dealing with the same problem to this very day! So once again, let me apologize to my pastor just in case she reads this…

I’m not too sure how many of you have heard, but, there is a new plague sweeping America. Its called Bitchassness. Now some of you might be laughing, but this is a serious problem. Bitchassness and the resulting “Bitch Niggas” that it creates are destroying our very way of life! We have got to do something to counteract this before it is too late. If you know or see a “Bitch Nigga,” please help him/her. Give them a strong hug and let them know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. If you are a “Bitch Nigga,” please seek out the guidance of someone who is real. Let them set you on the path to ridding your life of Bitchassness. If we all do our part, we can make this world a better place. Thank you…

Today’s Reflections – 8/15/10

Life is funny sometimes. I’m not talking side-splitting laughter funny, but it definitely has it’s comedic moments. Let me see if I can explain this a little better.

When I was a kid, I had this vivid idea of what my life would be like when I got older. And it was pretty simple, I wanted to rule the world (cue the sinister music and the evil laugh). As I got older, I realized that my earlier dreams weren’t exactly obtainable (that didn’t stop me from wanting the same thing, though). So I set my sights on more realistic goals. I’m kinda getting off of my original point, but just stay with me. Now here I am, a full grown adult (I got facial hair and everything to prove it), I find myself re-dreaming those childhood dreams. Just not on as large of a scale though. And that kinda humors me. How many of us can say we are doing exactly what we wanted to do when we were kids? How many of us are really happy with the lives we lead? And if we could sit down and talk to the 5th grade versions of ourselves, would they be happy with what we’re doing? To borrow a phrase from the movie Mr. Deeds, “I think if we ran into the 5th grade versions of ourselves, they would beat the crap out of us and put gum in our hair.” And that is SO true! We pose and posture like we’re happy with the crap we have to deal with on a regular basis, but deep down inside, I think the majority of us are a cat’s whisker away from going postal! So here’s what I want everybody who reads this to do (yeah I’m talking about all 5 of you). Make it a point to do the things that YOU want to do. I don’t care what it is. If it makes you truly happy, be like Nike and just do it! Maybe if we all do that, life and the world would be a little better. Now wouldn’t that be funny?

Old Topic, New Forum

I was listening to the radio the other day (actually this was a while ago and I just decided to write about it) and the morning radio personalities were talking about an alarming trend that is sweeping our nation. That trend would happen to be single parents. Well, actually they were talking about single mothers, but my father raised me and I’ve met some other single fathers over the years so I know there are some single parent homes were the parent stands up to take a piss. My first issue with this is why don’t those fathers that are raising their kids by themselves (for whatever reason) get any credit? I know it might be rare to see a woman run off on her child but it does happen more often than most people think. It’s not like we’re talking about a white running back in the NFL or something. I know the common situation is a man and woman lay down and 9 months later a child is born and before the doctor can smack the baby’s ass, the guy is making tracks, but you got to look at both sides of coin, you know what I mean?

But enough about that for now…

What is the deal with our society being okay with the concept of a single parent? Not to say that it’s a bad thing for a kid, sometimes it can be the best, but it should not be so fucking acceptable! I was raised to be a man, to recognize when I’m able to handle something and to take responsibility for my actions. I know the kind of person I am and I know I’m at least a year away from being ready to take on the responsibilities that come with raising a child! Not to say that I’m not mature because I happen to think that I’m very mature. I’m way too self-involved to put another person before myself, and that’s what it takes to be a parent. And I’m okay with that for right now, which is why I’m in no rush to change that part of my life. I’m not saying that to make the fact that I’m self-aware sound like a big fucking achievement, we all should know ourselves inside and out, but I’m saying it because it seems like some of our men (and women too) don’t look closely at the person in the mirror before they do certain things. And everybody remembers in health and/or sex education class (I had to take them both) that blood rushes to the erogenous zones of the body during stimulation. Well, that blood must be rushing from the brain because some of these folks must lose all of their common sense and reasoning abilities when they get horny! But let me put it into a simple math equation for y’all. I asked my father for this upcoming figure so he could have embellished just a bit: it takes an average of $25,000 a year to raise a child alone. That’s not counting when they turn 18, head off to that big ass, expensive school you want them to go to, and call home for money every other week, and sometimes every week. But think about it. If you could keep yourself from having that child with a piece of latex rubber that costs anywhere from 58 cents (12 pack box) or $1, isn’t that a better alternative to 18 years of being broke and dealing with a person you can’t stand? Now, I understand that sometimes things can happen and I’m not a parent (though I have had my fair share of close calls over the years) so please forgive me if my thinking is a bit crass and disrespectful. I don’t mean anything by it. I’m just trying to get a better understanding of what is going on. Our society used to be one that was centered on the nuclear family. For y’all that don’t know what that is, it’s simply a term that used to describe a typical family. Which would be mom, dad, a child or children and maybe even a dog or a cat. Somewhere between the 1950’s and now, we’ve kinda lost sight of that. It seems like nowadays, fathers and husbands have been replaced with baby’s daddies and mothers and wives gave way to baby’s mommas. Those terms should not be acceptable today if they weren’t acceptable when the previous generations were growing up. Back then, the only time you saw a single mother or father was by way of death or divorce. And even then, if the other parent wasn’t dead, they were around and civil towards each other for the most part. But that thinking seems to have gone the way of the Dodo. It’s common to hear somebody complaining about the drama that is going on between them and their child’s other parent like it’s nothing. We need to break that cycle! And what’s up with these babies spitting out babies?! It blows my mind that nowadays you can have a 15-year-old mother with 2 kids, her mother is barely out of her 30’s and grandma is just now kicking on 50’s door! So I believe part of the blame for the perceived destruction of the nuclear family lies with these young girls who don’t protect themselves and sometimes they fall for the dumb shit that these little boys be pumping in their ears. I for one am here to tell you that there are condoms on the market today (and they’ve been around since I was 15 or 16) that you can hardly feel during sex. So that myth about it doesn’t feel the same with a condom on is some utter bullshit! And even if it don’t feel as good, wear a condom if you know in your heart you’re not ready for a kid. Sorry to blow the whistle fellas, but it’s about damn time we step up to the plate and act like the men we claim to be!

Now here’s the part of the conversation on the radio that blew me away. Of the 1.5 million babies born in the US in 2004, 75% (that’s 3 out of every fucking 4!) were born to unwed mothers. Now take a second and guess how many were born to teenage mothers. Give up? Only 20% of those babies born out of wedlock were mothered by a teen. Now if you want to do the math, that means 15% of the babies born that year were from a teenage mom. Think you can guess what age group had the largest percentage of unwed births? Go ahead and take a second to think about it. Okay, time’s up. How many of you guessed that women between the ages of 25 and 29 delivered the highest percentage of babies born out of wedlock? That’s kinda scary! The reason that’s kinda scary to me is because in my experience with single mothers (it is a bit limited because I tend to avoid single mothers unless they are extraordinary women like one in particular. I ain’t saying no names though), they tend to be jaded towards men because of what the last one did.

Which leads me to my last topic…

What the fuck is up with women punishing all men for what one little boy did? I’m a good man. I’m one of those rare men who can be his woman’s best friend and lover. I’m the guy that doesn’t mind going shopping with his woman (as long as you don’t make me hold a purse. That ain’t gonna fly around here!), I don’t mind cooking or cleaning up so my woman can go out with her girls and have fun, as long as she’s willing to return the favor. When I’m in a serious and committed relationship, I’m as faithful as they come. The most I’m gonna do is go out to the club, dance a little and maybe even flirt a little. But I will always cut my self off before shit gets out of hand. And if for some reason I don’t, I quickly and proudly announce that I have woman at home. I understand that not all men are like me. I understand that there are some 2-legged dogs running wild in our nation. But ladies, you can’t blame the next man for last one’s indiscretions and mistakes. Now, men do it too sometimes, but seeing as how I ain’t trying to lay up next to another hairy ass body and rub nut sacks, I’m gonna focus on the fairer sex right now. It’s okay to be hurt if you get cheated on. Hell, something might be wrong with you if you’re not. But you can really let a good thing slip right through your fingers if you let yourself remain hung up on what that punk ass dude did to you. There are quite a few men in the world that operate on a similar wavelength as me (I’m a completely unique individual, you’ll be hard-pressed to find a carbon copy of me), but some of you women are fucking it up, seriously! Now I know, y’all get hit on just about every minute of every day and it can get a bit tedious, but take the time differentiate the real men from them fake ass thugs and wanna-be playas. So please, the next time you’re out and a guy approaches you with dignity, respect and class, return the favor. And if something becomes of that chance meeting, let that man have a clean slate. Don’t dog him out like you might have gotten done.

One more thing before I go and I got to aim this one at the ladies as well…

I’m tired of having to say this but, quit judging men by what you see! Good men are indeed all around you. You pass them on the streets, in the malls or in the halls at school or work. Most of them you can’t see because you don’t know what a good man really looks like. He usually isn’t flashy enough or rich enough to turn your heads. He might not wear a suit and drive a Lexus. He might not have “a body like Arnold with a Denzel face”. But, as you mature, you should realize that it’s better to find someone who’s got your back than someone who turns your head. A good man doesn’t agree wholeheartedly with everything you say. He doesn’t just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He doesn’t declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere he is (he won’t have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and you may clash, but he doesn’t have to degrade you to prove he’s right. He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same. A good man is not going to meet every item on your checklist, nobody is gonna meet every item on your checklist. He is human and his frailties and faults are mixed in with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel that you don’t live to “catch” him doing something wrong so you can declare, “Aha! I knew you were a dog!” A good man doesn’t necessarily give you a huge birthday or Valentine’s gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable for him. Don’t judge him by TV standards. No one is living that fairy tale for real. You’ll miss out on your own fairy tale by buying into the myth that all men are no good. It’s just not true.

Peace and love!