I was recently asked why I post so many entries that seemed to be aimed at women. Well… I have a lot of female friends, both on this website and in real life and I’m not a huge fan of seeing anybody I’m friends with be hurt. So I try to give honest advice from a man’s perspective. Hopefully it helps. With that being said, here’s some more “Pearls of Wisdom”

1. All men are NOT dogs. Don’t judge us by our worst specimens.
2. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.
3. Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
4. Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.
5. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be.
6. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
7. Don’t stay because you think it will get better. You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
8. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition to save you from heartache.
9. Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always knows where you are, and you’re always readily available to him, he takes it for granted.
10. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
11. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.
12. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then HELL no, you can’t be friends. A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.
13. Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
14. Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
15. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
16. Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.
17. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
18. You should not be the one doing all the bending, compromise is a two-way street.
19. You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage, deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
20. Dating is fun. Even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right, there’s nothing wrong with Mr. Right Now.
21. Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are, even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
22. Never let a man define who you are.
23. Never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.